… hugs hunni, i can relate to your first post. im glad ur gonna go hun, i hope that you can find some release in going to see your brothers grave. try not to think about others having fun hun, its not a happy day for you n thats ok.
Registered: 12-2005 Location: Cambridgeshire, UK Posts: 17975 Karma: 128 (+129/-1)
November 5th i think its important to go to the grave. i didnt go to rob's grave until he had been gone 5 months. but i am glad i went now. it really helped. graveyards are just so peaceful and the one where rob is is beautiful. maybe take some flowers or a teddy to leave there for him? i write rob a long letter and left it there for him. writing the letter actually really really helped. i was quite surprised at how much more at peace i felt after writing it. was realy upetting too, but was good at the same time. if that makes sense? maybe plan to tidy the grave a little? take a few gardening tools? try talking to him or thinking to him too while ur there. have u thought about going to cruse? they deal specifically with bereavement, they come to you so you dont have to travel, and maybe that is something u can think about? xxxxxxxxxxxxxx
November 5th It was 11 years ago....bereavement counselling is pretty pointless now...
I think im too scared to go to the grave and see it in that state again
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--- today is a good day, so tomorrow will be a great day x
November 5th its not pointless at all hun, not at all. at college do they have any counsellors? cause youd get that for free? i went to a counsellor at college she was ace!
Registered: 12-2005 Location: Cambridgeshire, UK Posts: 17975 Karma: 128 (+129/-1)
November 5th bereavement counselling is never too late. the cruse lady told me that most people go to cruse years after the death. and esp as u were so young urself at the time i dont think that would matter at all. so dont think that. def give them a ring. they a free service and they come to the house so you wouldnt need to go out anywhere or get travel. please think about it. they are very good. xxxxxxx
