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posticon some distractions that maybe helpful.


hey, alot of ppl have trouble dealing with urges and finding a distraction is sometimes a bit difficult. theses are a few things that u may find help ful.

- go out, for a walk or to the store, just out side ingeneral, is good.
- call someone
- write down ur feelings or just anything, try to keep focused on writeing down things.
-play with pets or children.
- takea shower, or a relaxing bath
-listen to music that u enjoy
-keep bussy physicaly, anything that keeps u moving.
-try to stay around ppl.

thats all i can think of at the moment, plz feel free to add to the list. it wud be apreciated.
xoxo

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Re: some distractions that maybe helpful.


If I get the urge then I grab a pillow and hold it tightly until it passes... I try to watch TV or something whilst doing this... It keeps my hands occupied.

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Re: some distractions that maybe helpful.


i draw on myself in red pen then wash it off. thats pretty realistic. and good for people who depend on the sight for their relief. xxxxxxxxxx

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Top 40 Distractions...!


-deep breathing

-relaxation techniques

-call a friend, your therapist or a crisis line
 
-try not be be alone (visit a friend, go shopping, etc.)

-take a hot bath

-listen to music

-go for a walk

-write in a journal

-wear an elastic around wrist and snap it when you have the urge to harm yourself

-some people find it helpful to draw red lines on themselves with washable markers instead of cutting themselves

-hold ice cubes in your hands - the cold causes pain in your hands, but it is not dangerous or harmful (some people find it relieves the urge to harm themselves for that moment)

-punching a bed or a pillow (when nothing but a physical outlet for your anger and frustration will work).

-scratch draw a picture on a thick piece of wood or use a screw driver and stab at the piece of wood. (can be another physical way to release your emotions without harming yourself.)

-avoid temptation (i.e. avoiding the area in CVS where the razor blades are kept, etc.)

-try to find your own creative ways as outlets for emotions.

-learn to confront others/making your own feelings known instead of keeping them inside

-go outside and scream and yell

-take up a sport (a form of exercise can help you release tension, etc.)

-work with paint, clay, play-doo, etc. (the person who suggested this mentioned that they would make a big sculpture and do whatever they wanted to it. They said it was helpful to calm the urge to self-injure, plus it gave them some idea of what might be underlying the pain.

-draw a picture of what or who is making you angry

-instead of harming yourself, try massaging the area you want to harm with massage oils or creams, reminding yourself that you are special and you deserve to treat yourself and your body with love and respect

-go to church or your place of worship

-wear a pipe cleaner or something that will fit on the places that you injure. One person did this as a way to remind herself that she could call someone instead of hurting herself and that she had other ways to cope.
break the object that you use to self-injure as a way to show that you have control over it.

-write a letter to the person(s) that have hurt you and express how they made you feel. Theses letters do not have to be in perfect form and you do not have to please anyone but yourself. You do not have to give these letters to the people, but it is a great way to release the feelings that you are carrying within. After you write the letters, you can decide then what to do with them. Some people find destroying the letters help (i.e. tear them up, throw them in a lake, etc.)

-do some household chores (i.e. cleaning)

-do some cooking

-try some sewing, crossstitch, etc.

-recite a poem, prayer or anything else familiar the comforts you multiple times

-write down all your positive points and why you do not deserve to be hurt

-write in your journal why you want to hurt yourself and if you have hurt yourself, write down what caused it to happen so in the future you can prevent it from happenings - or find out what your triggers were

-Play some kind of musical instrument. Even if you don't really know how to play, picking out tunes is a way to concentrate and help get rid of the urge to harm yourself.

-yoga

-allow yourself to cry. Getting the tears out can make you feel better. It allows the inside to release, as opposed to self abuse. Picture your "ickies" pouring out as you cry.

-Take a shower

-write down a word best associated with what you are feeling (i.e. horrible, sad, lonely, angry) and continue to write it down, over and over. Sometimes when you do that, the words looks silly etc., and it puts humor or a smile in your life.

-sing a song on what you are feeling. It's another way to get it outside. Shout if you are made, etc. Let the words just come to you.

-Scribble on paper. Clutch the pen in your fist. It's a way to diffuse it on to paper. (Get a few sheets so they don't tear.)

-Take item you are self injurying with and use it against something else. For example, if you are using a razor blade, rip it across a towel. Sometimes seeing what "can" be done to an object can make a person think twice about using it on themselves. Can also give the feeling of "doing it"...the tangible aspect.

-Make a list of reasons why you are going to stop cutting. Every time you get the urge, read the list to remind yourself why you shouldn't. Also remember to put on that list that you do not deserve to hurt yourself. You are important and special and you do not deserve to be hurt.

Ideas taken from: http://groups.msn.com/SelfHarmersHelpHaven/waystohelp.msnw

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posticon Re: some distractions that maybe helpful.


i just cry for a very long time and grab a pad and pen and write everything down that my mind is screaming at me till theres nothin else to write. i re read it when im done and have another good cry. then i usually pass out and wake up feeling better

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Re: some distractions that maybe helpful.


crying in itself can be exhausting, but pretty relieving. xxxxxxx

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some of these may have already been said:

Safe Alternatives
- Paint a Picture
- Read
- Sleep
- Go to the Mall
- Talk to Friends
- Take the Dog for a Walk
- Take a Walk Through the Woods
- Surf the Internet
- Surf the Ocean!
- Play with a Pet
- Play an Instrument
- Write a Story, Poem, Song, etc.
- Milk a Cow
- Listen to Music
- Count Stars
- Find Shapes in the Clouds
- Short Notice Road Trip!
- Grocery Shop
- Window Shop
- Drive to Canada and Back
- Be in Two Places At Once (Straddle a State Line)
- Baby Sit
- Clean The House
- Clean Your Room
- Clean a Friends Room
- Watch Planes Take Off and Land
- Adopt a Neopet©
- Find a Build-a-Bear Store© and Build a Bear!
- Make a Friend a Care Package
- Go Through Your Clothes, Toys, Etc. and Find Stuff to Donate to Good Will
- Go Antiquing
- Dance
- Sing
- Go To a Park
- Play on a Playground (even if your "too old")
- Drive until you get "There"
- Go Orienteering
- Swim
- Dial Random Numbers and Say "Hi, Have a Very Nice Day and Don't Forget to Smile!" or something similar then hang up
- Smile at Strangers
- Make a Wild Flower Bouquet
- Do Homework
- Do Extra Curricular Work
- Rake Leaves
- Pick Berries
- Shovel Snow
- Dig Up Worms to Sell as Bait
- Make Your Own List of Alternatives

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coloring in coloring books ( this one helps me tons)

drawing

listening to happy music and dancing around.

emailing or pming someone

chatting on msn

playing with my nintendo ds.

writing poetry

searcing for distracting websites on the internet, ( no triggering websites) it could be recovery oriented or just fun.

watching funny videos on youtube
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actually, i like colouring books too hehe emoticon thanks for those suggestions ana emoticon xxx

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